The mirror

I am not really sure whether it’s just the case with me or are there more people who suffer cz of a thing so weird. I have met so many people …some became enemies…some stayed friends and some behaved like enemies and still stayed FRIENDS: D But there has not been a single soul that I can say is “perfect FOR ME”…like someone with whom I am comfortable at all times, without exceptions…And here I am not talking about a guy, if that is what you thought! I’m talking on a broader prospect…This might sound a bit MEAN on my part…but this is what I have experienced.

The “no-one is perfect” philosophy works perfectly for me. But it’s not about PERFECTION in the person but it’s about LIKING each other perfectly. Siblings, best friends, people in love and even couples married for years…I’ve not seen any two souls liking each other perfectly…at all times people are finding faults in each other, trying to convince they have a better point, and if nothing else then blaming each other. Why don’t people accept (in true sense) their differences and appreciate them or at least respect them.

I keep hearing it all the time and I still don’t know what makes people say we are “GREAT FRIENDS”...i mean on what parameters? Lemme guess? “WE HAVE FUN TOGETHER”? I mean REALLY ? Is that a parameter for real? I can have fun almost with anyone…We even share the dance floor with people we might hate at workplace! Big deal? For me being great friends should be more towards genuinely loving each other for what we are. I really don’t think this is the case with most of our SUPPOSEDLY “great friends”…had it been, there wouldn’t have been intentional comments, jealousy, hatred and the more fashionable n cool bitching…between the GREAT FRIENDS! I rarely call someone a GREAT friend and believe me my people would get angry over me for that? But what’s wrong in that..? Is it a rule to show-off our friendship if really it hasn’t been as smooth or effortless or desirable? It doesn’t mean in any way that I care for these people in my life any less. I tend to be the first one to help them out. But I hate the awkward situations that arise..FIGHTS…shouting…making horrid faces…saying every crap in the world, reminders of all done and un-done favors, pointing out at your intentions…talking about it to others and then a sleepover…and then they say “it takes only a hug to sort out things” phew! Whatever that means!: D ! It will be rude if you don’t agree…and if you agree at all then there’s always a NEXT time. Things will repeat…but no-one is going to accept you…the way you are..

We meet people. Something draws us to them. At first, we fall in love with them –this is it! we are perfect , and then we want to know them more and more…and when we know EVERY damned thing about them…things start getting sour and then bitter-what went wrong?It’s just like standing in front of the mirror. At first you adore yourself…and then the closer you go…the more the flaws start to show…And then you shrug and walk away! But still we love it and we keep doing it...